Admit it; this Barre Gray monolith on a base is everything a monument needs to be.  The design says everything about Raph's faith and suggests he was a straight-forward, down to earth man. The endearment  (technically an endearment because the epitaph is not verse) is probably the answer a stranger would get if asking about Hugh - and would jog the memories of his friends and family, to be sure. The roses - especially because there are two - suggest a loving relationship in Ralph's life. But there's a catch to designing a monument. And you need to heed it. Every cemetery sets down a series of designing regulations. They are consistent with the size of the stone permitted to the size of the plot. They are also common sense - A Star of David though permitted in Catholic cemeteries would not be a predominant symbol on this stone; even if Ralph was a Jew. Long endearments which do not speak directly to a person's faith are also not permitted in most Catholic cemeteries.      Whether that attitude is personally acceptable to you or not has little to do with getting this monument approved by a Catholic cemetery.  If you choose to bury there, you must bow to their regulations.